General hints for friends and family Do respect that the person trying to quit is in charge. This is their lifestyle change and their challenge, not yours. Do help the person who's quitting to get what they need, such as hard candy to suck on, straws to chew on, and fresh veggies cut up and kept in the refrigerator. Do try to see it from the point of view of the person who's quitting — their habit may feel like an old friend who's always been there when times were tough. Do make your home smoke free, meaning that no one can smoke in any part of the house. Do remove all lighters and ash trays from your home. Remove anything that reminds them of smoking. Do wash clothes that smell like smoke.
But you start thinking about yourself at the same time as a non-smoker, it can help you stay smokefree. Your identity is how you think about yourself. Your adapt, likes, personality, culture, or social groups can all be part of how you see yourself. Part of it can also include being a smoker.