When it comes to the most stressful life eventsresearchers rank divorce as number two, right after the death of a spouse or child and before being imprisoned or having a health crisis —and for good reason. It goes without saying that ending a marriage can make you rethink everything you thought you knew about love—and sometimes, even, yourself. In fact, experts say that getting divorced in your 40s, or 50s, can actually improve the quality of your future relationships. It can help you figure out what you really want in your next partner. Ready to meet people? Before you start dating, here are some ground rules for finding a match worthy of you in the Tinder era. When returning to dating after a longtime monogamous relationship particularly one that ended badlycraving the excitement of a spark-filled romance is understandable. But Gandhi says you shouldn't discount a slow burn. Chemistry, especially for women, can grow over time—and may take many dates to begin to grow!